The incredible power of “no!”.
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- December 2, 2023 at 4:15 pm #310247
I have a good friend. He is a law professor at a prominent college. He recently told me a story. The story is a very powerful example of something we have forgotten. The power of NO.
One day my friend was running his class. He had a new student. He described this student as a fairly large man dressed as a woman. These things are not something he supports but it was what it was and he went about his business.
Soon after this first class began he had to address this student for a typical reason required in the classroom. He ,without much thought, based on the first name addressed the student as Mr. (keeping stuff private of course) Doe. This man was addressed for a question he wished to answer. The student said he would answer but only after he was offered an apology for misgendering.
We must understand that my friend is a highly intelligent lawyer. He does not knee jerk react, everything he does/says is calculated and measured. He paused, and then told the student that if he was concerned about woke pronoun usage there was a class down the hall that actually explored those topics and if he wished to join the children whining and crying for attention he could simply go there.
Why is this important?
Once he did this the entire class of young people, kids whom have been groomed to believe this agenda their whole lives, burst into laughter.
Understand what this means. Decades of social engineering, propaganda and fear mongering about consequences for dissenting were invalidated instantly with what was nothing more than a “no”, because in spite of the the programming those kids understood reality.
What we allow, we encourage. DO NOT cede any more ground at the behest of those feigning compassion. They just want the ground.
December 3, 2023 at 2:45 am #310276No-one likes being told “no”- especially in this day and age- but we don’t always have to get everything that we want. It’s hard but you eventually get used to it.
I notice this with kids a lot now that parents just give their kids stuff to shut them up. Especially at this time of the year. Personally I think kids today are more spoiled than when when I was a kid. Back then, if I wanted a PlayStation or Nintendo64 I had to save up for them. Yes it took a while but it was worth it. Maybe the original PlayStation more than the N64 though despite Pokemon Stadium and Pokemon Stadium 2😂! Now it’s “I WANT A PS4!” “Ok little Timmy, here you go. No need to save up for it”.
That’s why it always hurt me whenever my dad’s mum used to claim that I was “spoiled” even though he told her that I had saved up for one🙄.
December 3, 2023 at 9:08 am #310283I agree with you 100%
Saying yes to every whim of a child is easy as it is far less work. It is the thoughtful no and attached explanation that takes effort and shows love. Many young folks today did not get many no’s. So they grow up entitled and confused and ultimately miserable. That is the legacy of selfish parenting.
“Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”–Proverbs 13:24
December 3, 2023 at 9:33 am #310284Actually, my parents got me the N64 (it was the Pikachu special edition one) and GameBoy Colour BUT I actually saved up for my PlayStation. I think it was at least £100 if memory serves me correctly. I can remember emptying my money all over the sitting-room floor and counting it🤣! The MegaDrive (Sega Genesis) was second hand and given to me by my mum just after my little sister was born. They also got me a PS2 but every console I’ve had since I’ve saved up for and payed for myself. Oh and the AMEGA 500 that I had was also second hand I believe but I had that one for educational purposes.
As I said, saving up for a £100+ console was hard but usually worth it in the end. I was never a “I WANT! I WANT!” kid. Probably explains why every Christmas and birthday I’m always hesitant about asking people for stuff even as a adult.
December 3, 2023 at 5:09 pm #310288You sound like a good woman whom was raised by good parents who loved you. Your story is an example that most often showing love as a parent happens through calculated “no’s” vs. abundant yes’s.
December 4, 2023 at 4:16 am #310309Thanks😅.
Most if not all of my DS except for my current 3DS was paid by me. My Wii my mum unexpectedly got me because she wanted me to have something special for my 18th. My WiiU, PS4 and Nintendo Switch I got myself. Most of my mobile phones I got myself as well. Got me a new one the other day because the battery finally packed in on the previous one and it was a fight for the last couple of weeks to get it to charge up. The last three or four laptops I got myself including the one that I’m currently using and has been the best computer I’ve had for gaming since the XP despite it being a low res gaming laptop.
December 4, 2023 at 6:54 am #310312Law professor “laid down the law”…noice.
It’s all about setting healthy boundaries – something which many people seem to be afraid to do in modern times for fear of incurring the wrath of the offended.
December 10, 2023 at 4:04 pm #310560
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